I’ll admit I’m not really sure what I expected in regards to my mom (and aunt) being here to help, and I fully realize not having a clear idea of what I wanted/needed from them is likely part of the problem, but…this isn’t it.
I mean, it’s not going badly. Like at all. But I think maybe I thought they’d be taking more initiative or something? Like when my MIL comes over to help, she takes it upon herself to do small, helpful things like do the dishes, throw a load of laundry in the washer, and volunteer to hold the baby while we shower. My mom and aunt seem to just be waiting around for direction. Which I can appreciate and understand, like maybe they don’t want to overstep bounds or something. But I’m honestly too damn tired to have to come up with a list of shit I want or need done. They seem to be totally happy sitting on the couch under blankets binge-watching period dramas on Netflix. Which, again, is FINE. I get it. I’m mostly just sitting around, too. But I kinda hoped they’d be more like “Here, you sit and we’ll do your dishes and laundry and grocery shopping” and less “We’ll just sit here until you tell us what to do.”
I know, I know, I just need to get over it and tell them what to do, but that’s always been difficult for me. It’s nice to have someone hold the baby while I get some baking done and take long, hot showers, though. My mom is holding him now while I take a break to rant about her on the internet even.
Really, it’s not bad. They’re not being unhelpful by any means. This visit just isn’t quite what I thought it might be.